The heart feels, the soul bleeds; The heart mends, the soul grows.
I once heard wit is an intermittent fountain, Kindness a perennial spring. It’s true.
Kindness is enduring whereas wit is sporadic.
You don’t need higher education to earn a degree in it-
You don’t need money to possess it-
You don’t need status to claim it-
You don’t need connections to achieve it-
You need not travel the world to find it-
You need only travel the inner journey of love to inherit it.
It’s the easiest entity to possess and said to be the highest form of wisdom.
Then why is it very few know its secrets?
Is there more malice and sadness than love in the hearts of all wits who’ve chose to replace their heart with a stone?
And at the end of the day, Kindness helps not only others but yourself as well. It unites us all.
I could never tolerate the feeling that I made someones day worse. I remember In middle school, eighth grade precisely, when Alegna, a girl 2-3 years my senior intentionally pulled the chair from underneath me as I was about to sit. I was wearing a skirt and I sat on air instead of a chair in front of what seemed 20-30 boys and girls in the same age group.
I was humiliated, mortified, red-faced and crushed as I heard bursts of laughter as Alegna further pointed me out with hysterical shrieking and guffaws.
Drunk on my pain doesn’t elevate your gain.
I frantically got up with a throbbing ache in my tailbone and wrist from the pressure of the backward fall. With tears welling up in my eyes waiting like a pregnant cloud ready to explode, I gathered what little dignity I had as a benevolent young girl named Pauline raised me up and scurried me away from the malevolent eagle-eyed glares. As I got up I could see the calculating malice in her narrowed eyes. She was giddy with joy.
It amazes me how different people can be when it comes to personal morality.
Although the stunt bitterly hurt ( both physically and emotionally not to even mention my bruised ego) I couldn’t even be mean back to her.
Sometimes you need a kind heart just to help you mature and develop. Alegna lacked this back then. I see her now in different gatherings and social events. She’s a very beautiful, accomplished socialite. I sincerely hope she’s been able to accomplish that selfless purity and kindness in her heart as an adult.
I think I’ve always felt bad for people such as her and others who needed to be mean to feel good.
I’ll never fully understand why Alegna separated and chose me for her mean-spiritedness and why my embarrassment was such an immense entertainment and joy for her.
Joubert said it wisely, “There are some men who are witty when they are in a bad humor, and others only when they are sad”. Perhaps she was both. I’ll never know. And it doesn’t matter. What matters is she taught me a lesson. She taught me exactly who I don’t want to be.
Why limit human kindness?
As I grew older and wiser, I convinced myself that perhaps Alegna needed to feel the center of her existence at that moment. even as she was innately misguided to shove my need aside and have her personal fulfillment come before morality and right-doing.
Unfortunately, people fail to discern that all their words and actions define their reality and the world they live in.
And yet, everything in life is a lesson and an experience. And life moves on, whether we act as cowards or heroes. What seems nasty, painful, or evil can become a source of beauty, joy and strength, if faced with an open mind. I decided to have an open mind and learned kindness from the unkind!
As Mahatma Ghandi said “Each one has to find his peace from within. And peace to be real must be unaffected by outside circumstances”. As I reflect on this quote, I hope that that girl from long ago has found peace from within. I know I have.
So folks, kindness matters-
Today, have a pleasant disposition and give one of your kind words or a smile.
Today, be someone a little nicer.
Today, listen with a caring heart.
Today, bend the truth, if you must, to be kind.
Today, be a paragon of virtue and ethics.
Today, decide to let your faces be imprinted on the hearts of those who are kind to you like a blessing.
I am far surer of what is kind than I am of what is entertaining.
It’s that simple.
How wise must one be to always be kind!
Honey, that’s just life!
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